Teacher, football coach, online marketer and cancer survivor. Degree in Business Management and an advanced degree in physical education and athletic psychology and exercise.
"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." Avid bicycle racer in my twenties and thirties. Realized I had to keep pedaling to finish the race! I use that logic in everything I do.
I'm truly thankful for all the people that have helped me along this journey! I make sure I do the same for other people.
"You can have everything in life, if you help enough people get what they want." -Zig Zigler
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Follow These Simple Rules When The Naysayers and Haters Get You Down!
Call them what you want… naysayers, haters, wet blankets, etc. but the sad truth is that more dreams have been killed by negative people than anything else. The truly successful people in life never gave two hoots what people thought of them they just carried on focusing on their goals and strived till they made their dreams come true.
When you have a dream or a desire in life, it’s imperative that you follow your heart. You only have one life to live and you do not want to reach old age where you have no energy and time left to make your dreams come true.
Having regrets when you’re old is sad. Your past desires and dreams will return to haunt you and you’ll realize that you could have done so much more or been so much more… but you let yourself get discouraged by those who didn’t let you be you.
By now, it will be too late and you’ll realize that none of what other people said really mattered… and you should have followed your heart. This is a sad scenario but it plays out daily in thousands of people’s lives.
You do not want to end up like them. This article will give you six tips to dealing with naysayers and not letting them get you down.
Only you will know why your dreams are so important to you. Maybe you have a love for art and a natural inclination towards it but your parents want you to be a doctor. Maybe you have a desire to start your own business but your wife is skeptical and thinks that your day job provides more security.
What are you going to do?
If you know why you’re doing what you do, you will push ahead despite what others tell you. The promise will be clear to you and you will go against your critics.
There is a story about the Chinese bamboo. Once you plant the seed, you’ll need to water the soil for 5 years. During these 5 years, nothing will happen. However, on the 5th year, a shoot will sprout out from the ground.
Once that happens, over the next 6 weeks, it will grow over 80 feet tall. That’s amazing.
The same applies for your goals. It may seem like ages to get there and of course, people will be hinting at you that you might as well quit. Yet, if you persist, once you take off, your success will be massive.
When you’re feeling down because people have poured water on your dreams or told you that you’re destined to fail, do listen to motivational videos or read motivational books to pick yourself up.
Know That It’s All Turbulence
When a plane takes off from the ground, many times it will face turbulence as it rises above the weather to reach cruising altitude. In the same vein, the beginning stages of getting to your goal will be tough, but once you get there, it will most often be smooth sailing.
Success Turns Naysayers Into Supporters
It’s a fact that the same people who laughed at you and mocked you will become your supporters once you make it. They’ll ask for tips and advice to help themselves achieve your success. If you build a successful business, people who doubted you will even ask you for a job. That’s just the way the world is.
Understand The Psychology Behind It
Lastly, you need to understand that when you pursue your dreams, you are like a threat to others. You determination to follow your own path and live life according to your rules shines a spotlight on the failures of those around you.
It forces people to realize that they quit on themselves or did not do enough. The only way that they can feel better is to pull you down so that you can be a failure just like them.
They may make you feel like they’re doing it out of concern. But the truth of the matter is that they’re afraid you’ll succeed… because if you do, it’ll mean that they could have followed their dreams and succeeded too.
Always follow your heart and don’t allow the negativity from others to dull your sparkle or your desires. A tiger doesn’t lose sleep over the opinions of sheep.
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