Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff – How to Get Rid of Stress in Your Life

Thomas Wallace

Teacher, football coach, online marketer and cancer survivor. Degree in Business Management and an advanced degree in physical education and athletic psychology and exercise.

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." Avid bicycle racer in my twenties and thirties. Realized I had to keep pedaling to finish the race! I use that logic in everything I do.

I'm truly thankful for all the people that have helped me along this journey! I make sure I do the same for other people.

"You can have everything in life, if you help enough people get what they want." -Zig Zigler

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How to Get Rid of Stress in Your Life

Some stress is actually desirable – you probably don’t want to get rid of the reflexive stress that causes you to jump out of the way of a moving bus, or that Man sitting at his computer under stressstress that gives you the energy to meet challenges in the workplace or home. But the kind of stress you may want to get rid of is the chronic, wearing type of stress that may be having a negative effect on your health.

Here are some tips on getting rid of the bad stress in your life.

1. Don’t sweat the small stuff

You may have heard this saying before, but there’s a reason why it gets repeated. stress free signing pointing to the rightKeeping a healthy perspective about how important or unimportant certain things are can go a long way toward relieving stress. Stop and think about whether or not something is going to matter in ten years, five years, or next week!

For example, if you find the enormous load of laundry that never goes away stressful, think about whether it will make a difference in ten years whether that laundry is washed today or on some other day.

2. Adjust your lifestyle

It’s one thing to deal with stress that’s already in your life; it’s another to prevent it. Try making some changes to reduce stress before it happens. Some people stress bomb explodingfind it helpful to make a schedule – instead of looking around and seeing more than you can do, make a realistic plan to get it done.

Things that need to be done seem less overwhelming when you know you are working on them. And on the days when you are not tackling that particular thing, you may feel more like you deserve or have “earned” a break, since you worked on it yesterday and will be working on it again another day.

3. Practice deep breathing

This can go into actual meditation if you like – meditation is said to relieve stress, too. But if you just want to practice deep, slow breathing, it can help relieve stress.

man practicing deep breathingBreathe slowly through your nose and imagine filling up your whole middle with air; then release it slowly through your mouth. Repeat a helpful phrase or imagine a restful image while you do this, if possible. Some sources say this helps release toxins, too – they say that stale air left in the lungs may make you more prone to disease or infection.

4. Turn it off

Take some time to turn off the news, your cell phone, the radio, your land line telephone, and the computer. Sometimes, our sources of stress come from stress wiped out!hearing about the suffering and difficulties of others. Hearing the news during the day or, perhaps worse, right before bed may add to your stress. Try turning off these sources of information for a little while each day.

Have An Incredible Day!

Thomas Wallace

Organize and Separate Your Time for Better Success!

Thomas Wallace

Teacher, football coach, online marketer and cancer survivor. Degree in Business Management and an advanced degree in physical education and athletic psychology and exercise.

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." Avid bicycle racer in my twenties and thirties. Realized I had to keep pedaling to finish the race! I use that logic in everything I do.

I'm truly thankful for all the people that have helped me along this journey! I make sure I do the same for other people.

"You can have everything in life, if you help enough people get what they want." -Zig Zigler

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Organize and Separate Your Time for Better Success!

One way to help yourself manage your time better is to keep things separate. If time management ball held by a personyou have a specific area to accomplish a goal, you’ll be able to get your mind dedicated faster to that one task. It might seem like a pipe dream, but if you really want to be creative, find a space that makes you feel creative and go to it each time you need that extra creative spark. In that way, you become more in charge of how your time is spent.

A Reading Cubby

You may have had one in elementary school, a little place that you could go for quiet reading time. You can do this at home easily by just setting up a chair in the corner of a living room, bedroom or office that is set up with good light for reading and if necessary the proper electronic components if you want to read by laptop or Kindle.

A Mail Checking Station

This works especially for snail mail and is best if it’s close to the trashcan. Get the mail in, and immediately go through it, tossing the trash, and then taking the mail to the computer in order to schedule, process and pay bills.

Games Only

Some people cannot afford this but it is something that will truly help you manage your time better. Separate your work computer from your fun computer. effective time managementAt the very least create different sign-ons to your computer: one for work, one for games. This way you won’t be tempted to check work when you’re having fun, or play games when you’re supposed to be working.

TV Time

It’s very different to get work done, or even read a book with the TV blaring. Having technology in the bedroom is also not conducive to a good night’s sleep. Consider having the TV in only one room in the house and only using the TV during limited hours.

Breakfast, Lunch and Dinner

The three most important things in the world, Uncle Billy would say in the train scene in It’s A Wonderful Life.  Eating is a very important part of your day and should be treated as such. If you eat all over your home and office there is no true break or time to digest your food. Take the time to set the table, and eat at the table or breakfast bar in order to differentiate the time spent on eating, versus working, versus play.

Resting and Sleeping

There is nothing wrong with taking a nap on a rainy Sunday afternoon, but you watch with the words want to be very careful about sleeping and resting during the work day. Plus, you want to avoid working when you’re supposed to be resting and sleeping. Make your bedroom a peaceful oasis away from the rest and go there when you need a break.

Being Social

So often, the internet becomes a substitute for true social gatherings and due to this easy access to a social life, it can be all too simple to flow from work to being social accidentally. Like with gaming, set up specific times to be social – whether it’s out of the house, outside of business hours, or on the computer.

Exercise!

If you don’t have time and space set aside for exercise, it’s unlikely you will ever do it. Set aside the time, and the space, even if you have to go to a new space. If Fit woman on a treadmillyou get to the new space, you’ll automatically reach your exercise goals because your surroundings will inspire you.

Setting up different areas to get various activities done will help you differentiate your time better, be more organized, and get more done than you thought possible. Creating dedicated areas for specific activities is an excellent time management tip that will work for most people.

Have A Great Day and Thanks For Stopping By!

Thomas Wallace

Setting Priorities for Your Time!

Thomas Wallace

Teacher, football coach, online marketer and cancer survivor. Degree in Business Management and an advanced degree in physical education and athletic psychology and exercise.

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." Avid bicycle racer in my twenties and thirties. Realized I had to keep pedaling to finish the race! I use that logic in everything I do.

I'm truly thankful for all the people that have helped me along this journey! I make sure I do the same for other people.

"You can have everything in life, if you help enough people get what they want." -Zig Zigler

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Setting Priorities for Your Time!

One of the hardest parts of time management is learning how to set priorities. Sometimes it can feel like every last thing you need to do is an emergency. But the truth is, there are ways to organize your time and manage the tasks that you need to do so that you get them finished right when they need to be done without feeling overwhelmed or rushed.

Thankfully Stephen Covey’s time management grid is here to save us from ourselves. It looks like this:

 

The way you use the grid is to designate each item on your to-do list to a colored square. Instead of quadrants like Mr. Covey’ has assigned, they are different colors here.

* Purple: Needs to be done immediately
* Green: Needs to be done but can take longer and needs more strategic     planning
* Pink: Distractions, but needed by others
* Light green: Not at all important and often used in order to procrastinate

Use the grid to help create your daily to-do list by prioritizing the importance and urgency of each item you have to pick from. It can be as simple as doing the purple things first, then the green, next pink, and finally the light green items. But, if you do it this way you might miss out on something important you can learn from the time management grid.

Eliminate Urgency from Your Life

By focusing on green you can eventually lessen the purple items on your list. By learning to say no to others you can virtually eliminate the pink things, too. Finally, by getting your schedule under control the light green will eliminate itself because you won’t feel the need to procrastinate anymore.

Learn to Say No

As children we are taught to not say no. Unfortunately, this transfers over to adulthood in a bad way, especially for females. If you determine something is inDon't be afraid to say NO the pink or light green area, you can use that to determine whether or not you should say no. If it’s something that your client wants that takes five minutes, but it’s not that important, you can do it. If it’s something you just like to do, you can always do it after you’ve done three purple or green tasks.

Assess Your Time Expenditures Now

Now that you have Dr. Covey’s time management chart, you can go back and re-evaluate the things you are currently doing each day to find out what color they are. Knowing their color will help you label each thing that you do throughout the days, weeks and months ahead so that you can prioritize them.

Finally, when you are assessing any task, make sure you label it, then ask core valuesyourself if it fits in with your core values and goals. If it does, it’s going to be in either the purple square or the green square. If it doesn’t, it’s probably in one of the other squares. As you learn to use this system it will start becoming more automatic so that you can say yes or no faster and put your time management on auto drive.

Have A Great Day!

Thomas Wallace

Create Minimal Stress by Managing Life Changes

Thomas Wallace

Teacher, football coach, online marketer and cancer survivor. Degree in Business Management and an advanced degree in physical education and athletic psychology and exercise.

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." Avid bicycle racer in my twenties and thirties. Realized I had to keep pedaling to finish the race! I use that logic in everything I do.

I'm truly thankful for all the people that have helped me along this journey! I make sure I do the same for other people.

"You can have everything in life, if you help enough people get what they want." -Zig Zigler

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Create Minimal Stress by Managing Life Changes

While few things are more certain in life than change, that does not necessarily make dealing with change any easier. When change comes your way, you might stress and all the things that cause stressneed some stress management techniques to help get you through it. And maybe next time you’re coping with a life change it will be a bit easier to handle.

1. Let yourself feel the sense of loss, grief, hurt, anger, pain, or other emotions that the life change brings on. It may be a costly mistake in terms of your emotional and even physical health if you stifle your feelings, or tell yourself you “shouldn’t” be feeling the things you do. Go ahead and let yourself experience the emotions, and don’t judge yourself.  (Really, Really Important!)

2. Don’t wallow in those negative emotions, either. While honestly experiencing those feelings is healthy, dwelling on them for a long time (years, perhaps) and allowing them to make you bitter and angry is not optimal. If you need to, seek professional help in letting those feelings go after experiencing them.

You might consider keeping a journal or doing artwork to get through the All the types of stressemotional difficulties. These creative activities can be helpful, because you have to “feel” the emotion to write, draw, paint, or sculpt; but then the feelings are worked out and transformed into something tangible.

3. Try to see the life change in a positive light. Go ahead and embrace the change rather than trying to hide or run from it. Accept it, and you may find a sense of freedom.

4. It’s okay to say “no” to some activities so that you can get some extra rest. Excessive sleeping can be a sign of serious depression, but getting some extra rest during a time of upheaval and change may actually be healthy and help you cope better.

5. Remember who you are. Your identity, interests, life goals, and so forth are important to remember during times of change. They are like your Stress management written on a chalkboardanchors. A life change may actually bring on a reassessment of these things, and that can be healthy, too. Maybe you need to face some fears and anxieties you have about change in general. Now is the time to do it.

Things to Avoid

It’s also worth noting some not-so-healthy ways of coping with life changes and the stress that may bring. Some destructive coping strategies to avoid include:

* Drinking alcohol
* Smoking
* Spending money on things you don’t really need
* Gambling
* Overeating
* Starving yourself
* Procrastination

Hope This Helps and Have A Great Day!

Thomas Wallace

Time Management Is A Group Project

Thomas Wallace

Teacher, football coach, online marketer and cancer survivor. Degree in Business Management and an advanced degree in physical education and athletic psychology and exercise.

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." Avid bicycle racer in my twenties and thirties. Realized I had to keep pedaling to finish the race! I use that logic in everything I do.

I'm truly thankful for all the people that have helped me along this journey! I make sure I do the same for other people.

"You can have everything in life, if you help enough people get what they want." -Zig Zigler

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Time Management Is A Group Project

Managing time takes cooperation from everyone on your team, and in your manage your timefamily, for it to work. If everyone isn’t on board, you’ll end up with problems and urgent last-minute tasks that you want and need to avoid.

Create a Shared Calendar –

Whether it’s for your team members for your business or for your family, create a shared calendar to use so that nothing gets forgotten; whether it’s seeing a movie Friday night or getting some work done on Tuesday for the project due on Thursday. Shared calendars prevent issues from arising and anything being forgotten.

Appoint Team Leaders –

This works for business and family. If someone is in charge of a particular project, it will help you avoid having to put out lots of little fires. The team leaders can deal with the small fires and only pass things on to you if they become more serious.

Set Meaningful Deadlines –

Don’t just give a deadline for the main project; assign smaller deadlines and checkpoints throughout the work on any main project. The main deliverable has time management key on a computermany different tasks that need to be done and if you and the team leaders are ensuring that the smaller checkpoints are being done on time to a high standard, there will be no reason not to meet the ultimate deadline.

Use a Project Management System –

There are many ways to manage projects, from cloud-based systems like Basecamp.com to using a series of spreadsheets, documents and files that are shared with everyone. It’s up to you how you want it to work, but do seriously consider using a system that was made for organizing projects.

Craft a Shared Vision –

Nothing gets a team more creative than a shared idea or vision to guide them through each project. If everyone is on the same page and understands the ideas and values that you’re trying to represent in each finished project, it will help move things forward by creating limits. Contrary to popular belief, limits do not always stifle creativity.

Systemize Everything –

If you have created a system for everything from landing new leads, to converting leads, to a contract, to working on the actual project, you’ll find out that feels as if you have a lot more time on your hands. You can carry this further by systemizing your family life too. The more often you do things in the same way, the faster you’ll get.

Delegate Responsibility –

Appoint other people to be in charge of different aspects of the business. Virtual Delegate and other business topicsassistants enjoy being in charge of other team members, as do children at home. Give someone dominion over something, with clear expectations of what the deliverable should be, and people will surprise you.

Everyone Needs to Contribute Ideas –

If everyone gets to openly contribute to ideas, without any concern of poor time for businessreactions, you’ll get more ideas. Not all ideas are going to be good ideas, but the more ideas that are generated, the more likely you’ll find truly profitable ideas to develop further. Set aside time once a month or so just to throw ideas around.

By allowing everyone to have a say about the time they spend, and what on, it’ll make it easier to manage time as a team for your business or as a family at home. Time management takes everyone on the team to work together. Teams can consist of those you hire, outsource to, or family members.

Happy Holidays!

Thomas Wallace

Successful Time Management Secrets

Thomas Wallace

Teacher, football coach, online marketer and cancer survivor. Degree in Business Management and an advanced degree in physical education and athletic psychology and exercise.

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." Avid bicycle racer in my twenties and thirties. Realized I had to keep pedaling to finish the race! I use that logic in everything I do.

I'm truly thankful for all the people that have helped me along this journey! I make sure I do the same for other people.

"You can have everything in life, if you help enough people get what they want." -Zig Zigler

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Successful Time Management Secrets

One certainty in life is that time is limited. While no one is sure how many years they’ll be given to finish doing what they want to do, everything is equal for eachSCHEDULING AND TIMING day you are given. Everyone has the same 24-hour day to dream, determine goals, and complete tasks that will help them meet those goals. But doesn’t it seem like some people are just better at time management than others? Surprisingly, there are some time management secrets that make you feel like you have hours more in your day.

Set Priorities – There are really only four choices:

1. Most important
2. Most urgent
3. Least important
4. Least urgent

When you identify tasks and set your priorities carefully by what is important over not important, as well as avoid having issues of urgency each day, you can get a handle on your time in ways that you never thought possible.

Learn the Power of No 

Saying no is probably one of the most important things you’ll ever learn to say no to distractionssay. The problem is our parents disciplined the word “no” from our vocabulary. It’s time to learn how to say no again. If something is not right for you, is too “urgent”, causes you stress, or you just do not want to do it and it doesn’t fit in with meeting your goals, say no. Saying no will free up untold amounts of time to focus on your priorities.

Disconnect from Technology 

Unplug the phone, turn off email notifications, and GET OFF Facebook. If you’ve not completed the most important tasks on your daily list, you have no business messing around with technology. The idea of multitasking is overrated, so unplug and tune in to the tasks at hand. You’ll work faster, smarter, and gain the time you need for other things.

Schedule Everything 

Your priorities need to be added to your calendar. Everything from the 15 SCHEDULEminutes you need to use social media for marketing purposes, to the one hour you take your kids to the park, needs to be put into your calendar. If you have a project due in a week, you should have five days of scheduled time to work on the project prior to the due date. This helps avoid those urgencies mentioned earlier.

Ignore Interruptions 

Unless the house is on fire or a child is bleeding, the telephone ringing and the knocks on your office door are not important. They are interruptions. Check your email at scheduled times during the day, explain to your children, spouse and family when you are working, and otherwise ignore the door bell ringing. If you didn’t schedule it, you don’t need it.

Outsource 

Whether it’s the housework, cooking, or customer service, it’s important to OUTSOURCINGoutsource what you can afford to outsource. There are huge payoffs to outsourcing the things that are simply time suckers from your day. If you can’t afford to outsource, your kitchen will not explode if a few dishes pile up, and everyone can do with eating a salad for dinner. And, you can automate a lot of customer service issues if you work from home.

Once and You’re Done 

Multitasking is not really a bastion of efficiency. Instead, seek to touch each task only once and finish it. For example, when you check the mail immediately throw out the trash, schedule bills to be paid, and deal with any issues that came up with a letter – right then. Of course, your mail time should be scheduled as well so that you can stay on track.

Check Your Schedule 

At least twice a day, set out the time to check your schedule. Usually the morning is good and at the end of the day is good. Ensure that you have your CHECKING YOUR SCHEDULEpriorities in order, add anything new to your schedule that needs to be added, and remind yourself of what is expected the next day. Checking your schedule helps you feel accomplished at the end of the day, and reminds you of what’s coming up tomorrow.

Finally, it’s important to be very serious about following your schedule and calendar. Use technology to help such as Google Calendar or Outlook, synced to your smartphone to help you remember what it is that you should be doing now, and next. It may seem geeky to be so serious about a schedule, but it’s this one factor that makes these surprising time management tips work.

Happy Holidays!

Thomas Wallace

Write Down Your Schedule and Stick to It

Thomas Wallace

Teacher, football coach, online marketer and cancer survivor. Degree in Business Management and an advanced degree in physical education and athletic psychology and exercise.

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." Avid bicycle racer in my twenties and thirties. Realized I had to keep pedaling to finish the race! I use that logic in everything I do.

I'm truly thankful for all the people that have helped me along this journey! I make sure I do the same for other people.

"You can have everything in life, if you help enough people get what they want." -Zig Zigler

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Write Down Your Schedule and Stick to It

The hardest part about time management is making a real commitment to following a schedule. It can be especially difficult for people who want to work calendarfor themselves to work on any type of schedule. It can feel wrong somehow to keep a schedule as an entrepreneur. However, keeping a schedule is going to increase your success exponentially. Putting your schedule in writing will help you follow it.

Use Your Smartphone

Today’s cell phones are really mini computers. You can have your entire life on there, including your work schedule with alarm reminders and everything. If you see a popup on your phone every time you go to use Facebook, reminding you of tasks that need to be done, you will not have much of an excuse for not doing them.

Try Google Calendar

If you have a Gmail account, then you already have access to a powerful system Planner on a computer screenthat can help you put your time in writing, while helping you keep track. You can easily set up different calendars for different aspects of your life and color code the entries. Further you can print out a calendar each day or sync to your smartphone so that you don’t forget anything.

Try a Project Management System

Project management systems like Basecamp can help you put your schedule into writing, and organize it too. You can use this system whether or not you outsource tasks to others by just assigning the work to yourself if you don’t have others to assign them to. You’ll get an email reminder before the task is due.

Use Evernote

This nifty little program can be used to help you keep track of your schedule, notes for projects, and more. It has a bit of a learning curve, but once you get used to it you’ll enjoy using it to keep track of many tasks.

Try the “Old-Fashioned” Date Book

The old Filofax still exists and many people prefer it to using technology. If you’re one that does, don’t despair because many people stay better organized with everything in writing in one single notebook. If that’s you, you can still do it that way.

Use a Large Whiteboard

The great thing about having a large whiteboard on your office wall is you can’t escape the tasks that need to be done since they are very obvious. You can also feel accomplished as you erase things as they get done.

Use Time Tracking Software

FreshBooks.com comes with time tracking software that enables you to keep Scheduling and Timingtrack of what you’re doing easily once you set up names for them. Make entries for using social media, making phone calls, even doing the dishes, and you’ll soon figure out where you’re wasting time. You can’t get time back, so it’s nice to know where it all went.

Create a Contract with Yourself

Actually put your promises and goals into writing in the form of a contract. Write down in black and white what you will do, what your work hours are, and what you plan to do during those work hours. Then sign it.

Setting a schedule and sticking to it requires commitment to your business as if it is a job. This isn’t to say that it won’t be more flexible than a job. But, if you have to move the two hours you wanted to work on a particular project, due to a family emergency, you need to then take time from elsewhere to replace the two hours you were going to work. Seeing the schedule in writing will help you schedule things the best by making a visual representation of your day.

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How to Create a Time Management Plan

Thomas Wallace

Teacher, football coach, online marketer and cancer survivor. Degree in Business Management and an advanced degree in physical education and athletic psychology and exercise.

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." Avid bicycle racer in my twenties and thirties. Realized I had to keep pedaling to finish the race! I use that logic in everything I do.

I'm truly thankful for all the people that have helped me along this journey! I make sure I do the same for other people.

"You can have everything in life, if you help enough people get what they want." -Zig Zigler

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How to Create a Time Management Plan

Creating a time management plan keeps you from wasting time. Having a plan makes every hour count, ensures that you get to work more quickly and helps distribute your time over all the tasks that you need to do each day, week, month and year. Creating a time management plan is an imperative if you want to be successful.

Be Realistic With Your Plans –

Don’t go against your own internal clock when planning each day. If you know you struggle to get up in the morning, do not schedule things in the early morning hours. If you can manage in the mornings if you do tasks you like first, try that.

Set Time Limits –

This is especially important for both tasks you dislike and tasks you like. You always have a risk of procrastination when it comes to tasks you hate by spending too much time on tasks you like.

Eliminate Distractions – (IMPORTANT!!!)

One of the biggest killers of any plan that you set are distractions such as television, interrupting phone calls, social media, and yes – children and spouses. While nothing is ever perfect, you can eliminate most distractions by planning ahead about how to deal with them. Turn off the TV, turn off the phone, use social media only at certain times with a timer set, and explain to children and spouses the importance of not bothering you while you are working.

Differentiate Important from Non-Important Tasks –

One of the hardest tasks before you when creating a time management plan is understanding what is important and what is not important. If you make it a habit to do the most important things first, you’re going to feel more accomplished and get more done.

Use a Calendar and Technology –

Where would we be without technology? Using Google Calendar or another system synced to your phone is a great way to ensure that your calendar is always with you and that you don’t forget things. You can even set reminders and alarms to help.

Eliminate Urgency from Your Life –

This can be difficult but most things really aren’t urgent. If you are a service provider, stop taking last-minute work; train your clients to give you plenty of time to work tasks into your schedule. If you set family time and play time into your schedule too, that will eliminate the need for a last-minute meltdown from the toddler too.

Create and Use Lists –

It is one thing to note on your calendar “work on project A” but it’s quite another to list exactly what you are to do during that time period on project A. This is the most effective way to schedule your time so that you meet your goals. Be very specific with lists so that no time is wasted.

Create a Daily Action Plan –

There should always be at least four or five things that you can do each day toward any future goal that you have to help you feel accomplished. Plus, having a variety of things to do each day will eliminate boredom and procrastination.

Creating a time management plan is an essential element in creating success. Most successful people live and die by their calendars. When you meet someone and wonder how in the world she does it all, it’s probably a very thought-out and coordinated schedule that allows her to accomplish so much.

Have An Awesome Day!

Thomas Wallace